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Let’s be real

Have you ever Googled a celebrity or had a conversation about someone widely known and come across articles or whispers about whether they’re genuine? “What is ___ really like?” “You’d be surprised by how down-to-earth he/she is.” “Did they really mean that?” When you read that, you trust that person a little less, don’t you?

Let’s be real– genuine and authentic is in! And it’s time for us to take some notes.

We all want to believe the person we are hearing from is being real. Accusations of being “fake” or “disingenuous” often cause a huge blow in the credibility department. That’s a crucial thing to avoid, as credibility builds your company and brand, cultivates a great image, and can be something you rely on during a crisis.

We have already talked about cultivating credibility during telework in a few different ways, but it’s important to realize that credibility is easier to lose than to gain. If you show your authentic leadership in the right way, it can drag your reputation further in the right direction and do wonders for your organization.

Authentic leaders are those who lead with a purpose, believe in the mission, and are generally relatable. Lead with empathy and don’t be afraid to be vulnerable! If you’re less like a robot, and more like a person, it stands to reason that you can be a better leader. After all, no one wants to follow someone they don’t trust or relate to.

Take, for example, Taylor Swift.

I am fascinated with Taylor Swift for a variety of reasons, from her incredible storytelling that I heard on her very first album to the ways we have in some ways grown up together (we are roughly the same age.) A self-proclaimed mega fan, I have always bristled at those who said she seemed, back then, squeaky-clean and too put-together to be real. The public speculation has gone from whether she has genuine talent, to whether her country-turned-pop is effectively good, to drama she has with other celebrities to finding herself free of that reputation. I confess proudly that I have loved her through it.

She has responded to those who found her to be manipulative, fake, wrong– and she’s done it on her own terms through songwriting to lyrics and more. Each album cycle, she has revealed more of herself in interviews and songs, and she has become more comfortable doing so over time. She never lost her relatability and the personal connection she had with her fans (me) from the beginning. Swift is undeniably a brand expert and no matter how you feel about her (or think you feel about her), you can not help but realize her genius at the craft.

There’s a line from the Netflix documentary, Miss Americana, that rings especially true for any public figure struggling with authenticity. Swift is explaining what it’s like to be an entertainer in the public eye, holding an audience’s attention for the sake of her art: “”Be new to us, be young to us—but only in a new way, and only the way we want…Reinvent yourself, but only in a way that we find to be equally comforting and a challenge for you. Live out a narrative that we find interesting enough to entertain us, but not so crazy that it makes us uncomfortable,” she says. Here, she’s showing how hard it is to balance who you are vs. what you show the world publicly.

Big stars like Taylor swift walk the line of living private lives and showing the world who they are in the good, and bad, times. That’s probably why everone’s publicists are so expensive!

But I think we can all learn something from Taylor’s journey: being authentically you is not always automatic. It’s a skill that you must keep practicing. And putting yourself out there can pay off in a big way.

Taylor’s songs are all about, well, her! They’re famously like reading her diary.

How is your message, or your speech, or your interview showing vulnerability and authenticity? Are you being real?

Whether you’re telling your workforce how you’re in this together, leading with experience, mentoring a team of younger employees, or sending a message during a triumph or defeat, show a part of you that’s genuine. Tell the audience something that you really believe and it’ll shine through. Let the workforce, or whoever you are speaking to, know how you feel. Let them know how you rose above adversity, how you took a chance to land that customer, how you weren’t sure it was going to work out. Let them in.

But it doesn’t take telling your deepest, darkest secrets from your diary pages to help an audience get to know you! Tell a joke. Own it if you make a mistake, and laugh it off (or, Shake it Off re: Taylor.) If something is awkward, acknowledge it and move on. Add some color to the remarks, like a story about your family or a silly thing you did once as a kid. What’s something that’s “you” that you can use to relate to others?

Let the audience see your human side, because when you tell them more they’ll be with you. Like, really with you. They’ll connect with you so your triumph can become their triumph. Your message becomes more appreciated. People will look to you as a presence they like listening to.

All of this builds trust. Your people will love how you got real. Authenticity is the key to getting them behind you, and helping your company be more successful because of it.

I hope this inspires you to get real and show some vulnerability to boost your own credibility! A parting three things: be genuine, learn who you are as a leader and allow others to relate to you! You won’t be sorry.

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Going the Distance

This post is different than what I usually share, but it’s very meaningful to me. Throughout the pandemic, I have struggled with (and mentioned it here!) how I will better myself, or change my world for the better, once normal life is allowed to resume. I decided that I would go the distance and truly become what I always wished I could be: a runner.

Anyone who tells you running is easy is either lying or bragging. I’ve never been good at bragging, lying or running, so before all this I’d have told you that running is impossible.

For me, it really felt that way. I always got shin splints when I tried to run, stopping before I ever really got started. My commute took time out of my day that I could be running. I really don’t like sweating. I didn’t feel strong enough, motivated enough or really worthy enough to start the ambitious task of becoming a runner. I also struggle with self esteem and body issues, which don’t help most endeavors in general. I had a lot of pressure working against me.

I’m not really sure if you’d call what I had last month a “breakthrough.” However, during the pandemic I reached a turning point where, after a conversation with someone I trust, I realized I could either do something about my situation or decide to be fine with it and accept myself as I am. That little realization that I was not ready to do the latter created a spark, which ignited my motivation.

I was ready to start going the distance.

I started strong: I read running blogs the day before I laced up, I practiced stretching and still do those stretches before and after a run, and I even started counting calories. I’ve begun a beginner strength routine so my muscles can keep up with the progress I’m gaining (slowly) on the pavement. I attempt yoga for balance and stretching on rest days. I bought new workout gear to stay motivated. I downloaded Couch to 5k and started a running plan to track my progress and push myself. It’s all going well, unless it isn’t.

Because still, it’s not easy.

I am often overwhelmed by the task before me when I step out the door to do my self-assigned run. Getting the gear on, braving whatever the weather is doing that day, feeling poorly about my odds of surviving… all of those things can reverse my motivation in a hurry. Sometimes, going the distance means cutting a run short because of leg pain. Sometimes, it means walking instead of running because of a stitch in my side. My feet can hurt for days after a run.

Going the distance often, for me, just means that cliche “putting one foot in front of the other” and focusing on my stride so I don’t get hurt and maintaining breath control when all I’d like to do is stop.

When? When does running become “easy?”

I hope that when I am able to see my friends and people I work with again, I might walk a little taller and maybe even be a few pounds lighter. I hope that they see I have changed and that I am able to keep this up for good. I pray that I can become more positive and use this momentum to believe in myself. I fear that I’ll let myself lose focus and revert back to spending more time on the couch than my course.

But I know I have made a change that can’t hurt me. One tiny change led to two, to three, to a potentially new lifestyle if I really commit!

It’s as one of my friends stated: “Any movement that is faster than a stroll can be running.” Even though I walk-run, gasping for air when the timer goes off and I can slow down, it’s running. I am a runner right now, and I will be one as long as I’m able to just keep going the distance.

I think this commitment can be equated to what our world is going through right now. Coronavirus changed us, and it’s not been an easy journey. We’re all figuring this out in our separate places, isolated, taking it one day at a time. When it is safe to return to stores and workplaces, our society will be forever changed. Many of us fear we will forget those lessons. Many others know that life will look different than it did before. But we will be more committed, if we try, to actions that make us better: respecting each other’s personal space, not shaking hands, staying home if we are sick instead of toughing it out at work, showing compassion for one another in innovative ways, video chatting more often, and so much more.

I shared this story not to brag (because as I said I’m not very good at that!) but to hold myself more accountable to my commitment to be better. Going the distance is teaching me about myself and connecting me to a goal I’d long thought could not be achieved. How will you go the distance in your own way?

As always, a parting three things: stay healthy, be well and remember that every step counts.

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Feeding your soul during a troubled time

Let’s be honest: we could all use some positivity, right? During dark times, it can be hard to feel happy or motivated. Here are 4 ways to inject some light into your life and feed your soul, even when the world seems dim.

  • Listen for positive news

I promise, its there! In every newscast, it’s been there this whole time: it’s just that the top stories can induce anxiety strong enough to cause you to overlook them. I’m seeing Gayle King and the CBS This Morning team feature great, heartwarming stories throughout their newscasts: not just before a break or before the end of a half-hour, but sprinkled throughout as you need your heart to feel lighter and feed your soul. The Eye Opener always has a good story included each morning!

And local news is in on it too! Some news stations like WHNT News 19 in Huntsville are even doing half-hour good-news broadcasts!

John Krasinski even made his own good news show! As of this post, it has 15 MILLION views! Clearly, we all need a dose of happiness (and we don’t have to go far to find it):

  • Create your perfect self-care routine

Self-care is, thankfully, all the rage these days. Feed your soul with encouraging acts like calming baths, a long walk outside, a mug of tea, a good book, a cuddle session with your dog or a cheat meal fit for a king. Forbes offers this great article to get you started.

For me, self-care has been the most rewarding part of self-quarantining at home. I now have all the time I ever wanted to do things like start running with Couch to 5K, take long baths with a glass of wine and a magazine, and sit outside on the back patio with a good book. This time is restorative: it’s what feeds my soul! I miss social interaction, but my self-care also includes virtual hangouts with friends which help me a lot.

For many of us, finding ways to be outdoors if we are able to distance is soul-feeding too. Going outside helps us feel less trapped, and more in-touch, with the world. This can be harder and harder to do if you live in a city or don’t have a yard. The National Institutes of Health suggests the outdoors can be restorative: “proximity to greenspace has been associated with lower levels of stress… and reduced symptomology for depression and anxiety.” We could all use more of that effect in our lives!

  • Make small goals

Someone recently asked me, “How are you making sure your life is better after this than before it?” I really had to think about that and honestly, at that time I didn’t have an answer. Since then, I have challenged myself to find a few ways to be better and part of that is making small goals, and working toward them every day.

I started counting calories and keeping track of what I eat because, for me, that’s a really small goal I can work toward right now. In the next 3-5 weeks, I think it can become a habit that will help me stay healthy after all this!

If you need time to start working on those goals while working from home, click here. This article from a few weeks back can help you manage your time and take some breaks along the course of your day.

  • Do something for someone else

Remember all the good news we just talked about? There are so many examples of human kindness around us right now, from parades past children’s homes for birthdays to community-wide rounds of applause for first responders and medical staff. Doing something nice for someone else just feels good! One way to feed your soul might just be to find a way to be there for someone who is struggling through the pandemic.

Websites, including that of this New York-based nonprofit, have tons of information about how you can help virtually or with important acts like blood donation. We are all in this together!

I hope this helps, and that you have a better understanding of what you can do to feed your soul through this difficult time!

I pray you find encouragement and motivation, strength and hope. Three thoughts to close: be well, be kind and be at peace!

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What to Tell Your Team During COVID-19 Telework

Here’s 5 things to help you decide what to tell your team during an uncertain time dominated by coronavirus headlines, as you work in unconventional ways.

Let’s face it: we’re living in a strange time. Telework is mandatory for so many of us who are privileged to have jobs that allow remote work. The virus appears to be closing in on our family or loved ones. Your workforce, likely scattered across your area instead of congregating at the same workplace, may feel anxious, stressed or fearful.

Consider that they also, like you, have a lot on their minds right now. Perhaps they’re working while keeping kids busy, taking care of sick family members, cleaning or stocking up on supplies.

Now, more than ever, they need a leader.

Now is your time to be more than just a decision-maker. The tone you set now, and the way you deliver your message, can make history for your company or agency and be more impactful than you may realize. Here are 5 things to tell your team, your workforce, right now:

  • “We are all in this together.”

This isn’t just a catchy High School Musical song: it really makes a difference for your workforce to know they aren’t alone in any struggles or confusion.

Whether they are choosing to self-isolate or under a government-mandated stay-at-home order, chances are your workforce is not socially active right now. This can lead to feelings of isolation that can be dangerous at worst and difficult at best. The American Psychological Association says, “loneliness can wreak havoc on an individual’s physical, mental and cognitive health.” If you can establish a community, or draw on the connection your team already makes with a feeling of community at the traditional workplace, you can remind your team they are just that: a team!

  • “Here’s how you can connect with our Employee Assistance Program.”

As someone who has considered, but never made the leap to use the employer-sponsored help program at one of my jobs, I’ll say it’s never unhelpful to have a nudge to check it out.

The Office of Personnel Management says an EAP is “a voluntary, work-based program that offers free and confidential assessments, short-term counseling, referrals, and follow-up services to employees who have personal and/or work-related problems.”

Your team is likely processing a situation, and the accompanying emotions, they have never experienced before. The EAP can help them maintain their mental and/or physical health and be a lifeline in a crisis. Drop them an employee communication about how to connect with your company or agency’s EAP and let them know it’s confidential, free and available 24/7.

  • “I will keep you informed.”

Your team needs to know you are looking out for them and that you will not keep them waiting for essential information. Tell them you’ll keep them in the loop, and then follow through by passing along updates on a cadence that feels best for your situation and organization. You walk the line of messaging so frequently that they tune it out and messaging not often enough to answer questions before the workforce thinks of them.

What is most important here is accuracy. You can be forgiven for being a little late on messaging if it’s accurate, true and easy to understand. It’s as they say: it’s better to be right than first. Just be sure that what information you choose to share is factual and relevant to your team.

  • “Your safety and health come first.”

As you decide what to tell your team, this is a big one. This must feel authentic as you say it, and it is key for your workforce to understand they are your priority. It helps explain many of the decisions you make in a crisis situation and can do a lot for a person who is struggling to know that you are looking out for them.

If we subscribe to what Abraham Mazlow wrote about the hierarchy of need, physical (food, water, health) and security (safety, stability) are two of the most basic needs for human beings. While Mazlow’s work has drawn criticism over the years, this still highlights how highly many of us hold those values in life.

In order to be a productive team, that team needs to be its best! You show you care for your people when you keep their safety and health at the top of your priority list.

  • “I don’t know at this time, but we are looking into it.”

Any good public relations professional will tell you that if you don’t know the answer to a question, sometimes the best thing to do is say a version of, “I don’t know.” It’s part of the recipe to cultivating trust and credibility. Rather than lie, or push through answering something haphazardly to risk getting it right, it can be beneficial to tell your team when you don’t have all the answers yet.

Maybe you don’t know when the workforce can return to work. Maybe you haven’t yet confirmed how many people on your team have tested positive for COVID-19, or how this affects what you do. Maybe you aren’t aware how many people a positive case came into direct contact with, but you’re working to track it.

The key to admitting you don’t know is to add a promise: “We don’t know yet how this affects our ____, but I will let you know tomorrow before noon.” Whether you are responding to media, or just your own team, this goes a long way. It allows a reporter to tell their audience when to expect more information, and it allows your workforce to look for your timely updates. It also shows what action you are taking to directly address the unknown.

Once, a reporter I admired told me that the best thing I can do when covering political stories is to avoid pretending I know things that I really don’t. He advised me that people can see through it, and it’s better to ask for clarity at the beginning than after the report (or speech) has run. It’s simple to say and even more simple in practice. Seeking answers is an important part of leadership.

I hope this helps you communicate with your organization and display effective leadership during a stressful time.

Now you know what to tell your team, a parting three things: be empathetic, be efficient and know you and your team have each other’s backs.

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Working from home? How to manage your time

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Working from home can be tough. Work is always accessible, the fridge is so close and you have only virtual connections with your coworkers.

As coronavirus (COVID-19) concerns heighten, many of us find ourselves working from home. Whether you are infected, self-quarantining or otherwise social distancing, you may find yourself in a position you’ve never experienced: sitting at your kitchen table and trying to do work you used to leave at the office.

But do not despair! Working from home allows you some efficiencies. Take advantage of them NOW to make the best of your situation!

  • Make the most of the time you earn back

Congratulations! You are no longer commuting! Whether that means you just got back fifteen minutes, half an hour or even an hour you’d typically spend sitting in traffic, make the most of that time. What have you been putting off around the house? What news can you catch up with, or friends can you call, now you have some time? What new skills can you learn that you never had time for before?

I’ve used the “free” time I suddenly have to watch more news, which I find particularly valuable since the world is grappling with COVID-19. I’m walking and writing more frequently in my newfound personal time! It feels healthy and keeps me informed.

  • Improve your will-power

Several people in my office have remarked about this… the fridge is now so, so close and those snacks we’ve stocked up on are within feet of us at all times. Diet or no diet, that’s a challenge for all of us! Food is within reach and there is no need to walk to a cafeteria or take a “break” to go eat it. The pantry is a dangerous place, my friends.

If your new work space is the kitchen, consider moving to a new place. It could be that you’re conditioned to eat while you’re in there. It proved beneficial for me to set up a table in a corner of the living room, away from the table where we eat dinner, so I could avoid the temptation to stress-eat.

  • Take time to unplug

Think of some things you can do to detach from work for a brain break or to remain active during your more sedentary lifestyle these days.

I’ve noticed that I keep checking my work computer, or my work email, well after I “clock out.” Part of my job is working with the crisis communications team for our center’s response to COVID-19, so in many ways I need to stay informed and abreast of any tasks I need to complete to help out. But other times when I am not being called upon to help, I see myself stretching my time “at work” while working from home. It’s all too easy to work without a break when work is all around us and not separated by a long drive where we have time to decompress.

And, perhaps we aren’t watching our health the way we should right now. Our home office chair is now home base, so we aren’t walking to meetings or around our work campus anymore. I have, at the suggestion of my supervisor, scheduled time to take a walk outside with the dogs or while listening to a podcast. Make time to move! It does wonders for your mental health and capacity to keep on going.

A friend who works from home for a living year-round also suggested 10-minute breaks every hour or so to get some housework done. Not only do you move around more, but you get some chores done on top of it! So smart. I think I see a floor that needs a good cleaning… I’ll add it to the list!

It can also be helpful to schedule some human contact. While we are being encouraged to implement social distancing into our everyday lives, I have “lunch dates” with a friend and coworker via video chat. Our friend group is also considering virtual wine nights to ease the loneliness of working from home.

  • Stay in communication

It’s easy to forget that your supervisor can no longer see you right now, unless of course you start a video chat with him or her. (Make sure you follow this guidance to make the most out of your video call!) That means, he or she is unaware of the work you are doing to support your team and what your needs may be during this time you spend working from home.

I ran into this for the year I worked as a bureau chief for a TV station in West Virginia: the big bosses don’t know what they can’t see. That means you must communicate with your boss so they know that not only are you doing work and completing tasks, but you don’t need them to keep you accountable. I was praised for checking in regularly and letting the newsroom know where I was on a story because they weren’t physically nearby to see my struggles or successes and help out.

A good boss will also keep standing appointments to check in with employees, even during a telework situation. Before publishing this post, I wrapped a tag-up with my supervisor, who used the opportunity to ask where I need support and how I’m doing during this telework phase. He kept our communication going because he knows he can’t just walk down the hall and visit my desk to see how things are going!

There you have it! How to keep the workflow going and take care of yourself while working from home! As always, a parting three things: be well, social distance and thank those who are on the front lines of COVID-19 like nurses and store clerks.

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